A key to prosperity… Moderation! December 16, 2018 by Amber JolaFor all those goal getters, non stop mover and shakers, and all around over achievers, how do you do it all? Do you just keep going, feeling guilty at times and on occasion break down cause it’s just not easy!? I know I do. I’m busy doing it all, trying to fit it all in, and then… bam it’s Christmas and I have 25 additional things added to my plate! We can all learn to do it in moderation… but what really does that mean? I’m the kind of girl who goes all in when I do something, so what can I possibly have to say about this? Well, shocker, I have lots to say! I found that after I got divorced, I had to learn how to conquer this all on my own. Easy task right? Not so much. When you’re the type of person who wants to help everyone and be there for everybody all the time, it makes things challenging. I had to step back and learn that it’s ok NOT to be the person who does it all. It’s ok to miss my daughters game or practice. It’s ok to not have a super healthy meal every night. It’s ok that I miss a workout now and then. What’s NOT ok is allowing myself to feel guilty about this!After all I’m a one person show, doing the job of two. I have to allow myself the flexibility and give my self a guilt free pass to say, “I need to do what is best for our family.” And yes, it’s ok to STOP and say no! It’s ok to tell someone you can’t do it and move on without the guilt! So how do we do that? Practice of course, but it’s not easy either! Sometimes that means having a little me time, because we’ve all heard the saying “you can’t pour from an empty cup.” Self care is huge part of this! Maybe you can do early morning yoga or stretching, maybe everyday at lunch time you take 10 minutes and go for a walk, or at night you write down what your grateful for. Read a book, jog, or call a friend. Whatever it is, take a little bit of time for YOU everyday and that will help you put things into perspective. When it comes down to it, it’s really about taking what’s important and making it a priority. Sometimes I write down all of my weekly tasks, prioritize them, and then end up crossing off a few that aren’t as important. Laundry, not as important as showing up for that special “one on one” time with my girls. So sometimes the dirty clothes and dishes can wait, and I’ll get to them when I can, but I know I need to be present and enjoy life. So if you’re like me, find a way to give up the guilty feelings and “let it go!” Take a deep breath, enjoy life, and live in the present!