On pride… March 14, 2018 by Jamie WestermanPride is a lot like porridge, it has to be juuuuust right – Goldilocks Ok maybe this is not a direct quote. But Goldilocks did have something right. There are many things in life that should land in the “just right” zone, though it’s taken me thirty plus years to figure that out. For a long time, I floated in the “too little” or “too much” territory of things without thinking much about the consequences. For example, I prioritized myself way too little, and, you guessed it, gave of myself way too much. When it came to pride I was WAY in the realm of “too little.” I lacked confidence. My self-esteem was almost non-existent. I didn’t even really believe pride in myself was necessary. Oh boy. Not good. I wish I could go back and hug that girl. By letting my pride fall to the wayside, I was not honoring my parents who raised me RIGHT, my children who were looking to me as an example, or myself. I was not respecting my accomplishments, either big or small. Let’s face it, those days a major accomplishment was taking a shower and putting mascara on! And here’s the thing guys, we teach people how to treat us. I was not honoring, respecting, or showing pride in myself, so the man in my life at that time was not either. A double whammy of a bad example for our two innocent kids who were watching our every move to learn to just BE. There are other reasons pride matters. When it comes down to it, being proud of yourself shows the world (and YOU) that you value self-worth. Also ladies, let me just put this out there, it is ok to be proud of your loved ones AND yourself too. We spend too much time building others up not to feel good about our own abilities. When you are proud of yourself you will feel more passion, contentedness, gratitude. And funny enough, those things will breed more pride. Having pride in yourself doesn’t mean you should set magnificent goals daily and then crush them, though that is an obvious occasion to be proud! Pride can be about the day-to-day. Yesterday I was proud of myself because I got my butt out of bed and did a workout at 6 am. Not my standard morning. Today I was proud of myself for doing something that’s been on my to-do list for two weeks. Those feelings don’t make me selfish or smug, they actually motivate me to do more. Now, most people would rather not come across as boastful or egotistical so here’s where Goldilocks comes in. You can and should have a happy medium of pride. If you are reading this, I think it’s safe to say you are not so narcissistic that you feel personal growth is a waste of time. So, stop worrying about other people. Stop making the excuse that you don’t want to cheer for yourself because it seems self-centered. YOU proud of YOU, benefits everyone around you, end of story.