On purpose… December 14, 2017 by Jamie WestermanLife without purpose is like a car without a steering wheel. So you’re driving down the road, cruising along, blasting some tunes, maybe you have a convertible and the wind is blowing your hair back. Things are good, you feel content, and excited about your destination. You let your foot off the gas knowing your exit is coming up, and then realize you’re missing something. Your car has no steering wheel! You panic. You’re going to miss your exit. You’re going to miss all the exits. If you can’t steer you realize, you’ll be stuck on the same highway forever. Sound awful? I mean in the end, you wouldn’t be stuck on the highway. You would run out of gas, and you’d have to call roadside assistance to bail you out. You would have to detour. And you still wouldn’t have a steering wheel. Life is like this when there is no purpose. We race down the highway aimlessly, maybe with a goal in mind, because that’s what everyone else is doing. There are bills to pay, a college fund to build, retirement, and just when you feel you’re catching up, a rat builds a nest in your washing machine and, well not only are you disgusted, but you also need a trip to Home Depot (yup, true story). Our once grand ambitions become lost in the hamster wheel (why a rodent theme?), and what may have once been purpose becomes merely survival. If I asked you right now, what is your purpose, would you be able to answer? Would you speak clearly and confidently about WHY you do everything you do? I am not referring to a paycheck, outside expectations, or the “shoulds” in your life. I am looking for the deeper meaning, not the THINGS you do, but what’s inside of you. The parts of your life that bring you intense joy, that make you feel abundant and fulfilled. What is that for YOU? Oftentimes we get so caught up in what our purpose SHOULD be, we lose focus of doing what we love or what we are passionate about. Ideally in life, our career path and our purpose line up. We take a meaningful ambition and weave it through our day to day life. I am fortunate to be one of those people, sometimes. My purpose in life is to leave everyone I come across better off than they were before I stepped in. Very often I get to fulfill this purpose as a healthcare provider and in my business, which is entirely focused on personal growth. Some days, especially in the clinic, my function is to simply manage expectations or be the reality of someone’s poor choices. On those days, I carry my purpose home bruised and forgotten, only to find it again when I get a message from a happy customer or listen to my daughter declare, “you are the BEST mommy EVER!” You see, sometimes the vision we have for ourselves doesn’t fit into our 9-5, or our social circle’s judgment, or our “should do…” list. If your life feels more stressful than joyful, you may need to evaluate your direction. If your days feel unsettled, if you go to bed feeling unfulfilled, your plan may still be unknown to you. If you get by with excuses, the assumption that you are entitled to a happy life, or you aren’t of service to others, you may need a “Purpose for Dummies” book (ok that sounds terrible, but really those “Dummy” books are straight up amazing). Really this is when we do truly need a handbook to help us get back to basics and simply ask ourselves, why? And what? What am I good at? What do I like to do? What does this world need? What does MY world need? WHY do I have the privilege of waking up every morning? Before your purpose you may have thought, other people are passionate, they change the world, they go to the gym, eat organic, and have great hair. They are amazing and I am just me. These thoughts disappear when you find your purpose. You will find motivation and empowerment you never thought possible. The path becomes clear. You stop looking outside for answers and start turning inside for truth. You realize you had a steering wheel all along.