On showing up… May 6, 2018 by Jamie WestermanDon’t just show up, show YOU. Show up. What does that even mean? And I’m not talking about physically showing up. In the past, it was a competitive term, like “hey let’s meet on the basketball court so I can show you up!” Now we use “show up” as a statement about your involvement in life, business, relationships. “My friend never really shows up for me.” “I need to start showing up at work.” “I wish my ex would show up for the kids more.” (Not MY ex, you get it). I find it so intriguing that this term is a part of our vocabulary. Because when I was a kid, if you were showing up, you were literally physically in a space. You would show up at school every day and your parents would show up to get you after. How did a term used to describe a physical action start being used to describe being present in your life? Well in my opinion (which is what you get since you’re reading my blog, wink), our habit of being physically in a space without being emotionally present is what created the idea that “showing up” means something more intangible. Showing up now represents accountability, energy, presence (NOT physical! Ok ok done), and making people feel heard and valued. Showing up means being intentional in moments and places of our lives and with people that are important to us. It means being our best self. I know, because for a long time I was NOT showing up. I was going through the motions, physically in my life without really being IN my life. How do you even know if you’re showing up? If someone would have asked me then, how do you show up in your life, I would have answered something like … “well, I crawl out of bed, have a cup of coffee, get the kids ready for daycare, go to work, come home, put them to bed, and do it over again the next day.” That girl needed some work poor thing. She was cautious and unfulfilled and too afraid to do anything about it. For me, showing up started when I began being true to my authentic self. Which, by the way, did NOT happen overnight, or even over a year, or two. You cannot show up in your life if you are not vulnerably you. Shit. Well that’s what I would’ve thought then. Now, being ME is incredible. It feels so freeing to know that when I say yes to something it’s because I want to. When I post on social media, it’s from my heart. When someone asks how I’ve been and I say “GREAT,” I actually mean it. And the crazy part, showing up as me is exactly what everyone in my world needed too. It’s way too easy to be distracted in this life. Expectations are high for all of us to “do it all.” We are expected to be the perfect Pinterest mom who happens to cook like Emeril, kick butt at the gym like we are trained Olympians, wear heels for a night out and walk like Giselle down the runway, AND work our asses off in our jobs and businesses as if we were Ivanka Trump running the world. She is, isn’t she? Can you blame us for being absent-minded during conversations or unfocused when our child wants to show us the Minecraft world they built (dear GOD not again). But even with that, presence in moments must become a priority of showing up. Not for anyone else but yourself. We are missing out when we are merely physically existing. And that Pinterest/professional chef/body builder/super model/world ruler thing can just stop right now. THAT is not how you show up. Unless you’re Ivanka, in which case, I do believe her authentic self IS just being queen of the universe. Bring yourself back to real life when distractions tempt you (that ping on your phone can just wait). Make eye contact, listen, sit in silence. You might just like it. This world is a crazy big place to just put yourself out there. Be transparent, pay attention, speak your truth, and yes be a little (or a lot) vulnerable. Be the best person you can be, today, tomorrow, the day after that. When you live life ON purpose and WITH purpose and show up as YOU, regrets are not a possibility and your sincerity will, at the very least, rule your world.